A Modern Manner Refresher: Wherever the holidays take you, remember to bring your manners-
Wherever the holidays take you, remember to bring your manners-
I read a wonderful article in the latest Bon Appétit that was written by Ben Schott and the editors. It was a fantastic compilation of MODERN MANNERS reminders for hosts and guests, specific to Thanksgiving, but appropriate for any occasion. Here are a few of my favorite pointers:
➤ If you’re celebrating a Holiday at a restaurant, the usual rules of etiquette apply. But remember that most of the staff would rather be with their families than serving yours. ➤ When the check arrives…tip like Sinatra.
➤ Ignore the host who tells you “Just bring yourself!”—you should never arrive empty-handed. There are a range of goodies that can be used on the day or saved for later.
➤ Hosts should take every care in creating a seating plan that encourages lively conversation, quarantines quarrelsome personalities, sparks new friendships, and accommodates the delicate.
➤ Married and established couples should be split up. Consider placing newly formed couples opposite each other rather than side by side.
➤ Holidays are the ideal time to gently haze new additions to a family—like placing an eager young boyfriend next to a curmudgeonly uncle.
This thorough article covers the bases with so much more: Timing, What to bring, Seating Plans, Conversation, Toasts, Kids, Troubleshooting, Serving, Carving, After Dinner, Leftovers, Thank Yous, Charity, even Cell Phones. It is well worth the read while it is still in the newsstands (or see link below).
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